Thursday, March 14, 2013

My Friend Died - David B. Silva

I never had a close friend die before.  Sucks.  Big time.

He was a good egg.  He was my editor, mentor, gave me my first paid writing gig, and more after that.  He was generous with his time and knowledge and loved peanut M&M's.  Could not eat just one.  Had to gobble the entire bag.  Had to.

He would also send me funny things in the mail.  One time I got 100 yo-yos in a box.  100 of them.  So I sent him back 4 cans of Spam, and a box of Halloween Devil Dogs.

And that's what we did.

Another time, he put me in his book and then killed me off.  But my favorite is when he completed that novel.  I sent him a handmade card with lots and lots of confetti inside.  And that day he brought his mail to Carl Jr's for lunch.  Opened it and confetti went ALL over him, and the floor. 

That made me laugh.  Him not so much.

Then another time, I forget what he sent me but in return I wrapped this HUGE box with every bright girly color known to the rainbows of fairies and unicorns, and shipped it.

He was color blind so I had to make it big and bright.

The postman called him to see if it was his birthday.  It was not.  So here walks in this 6 foot 5 dude (that was my friend), and had to collect his girly ass package.

Again, I was happy.  Him, not so much.

But that's the way it was.  Send me 100 yo-yos and you're gonna get your ass kicked because that's what we did.

And now, I'm going to head outside to find an unfrozen patch of ground, and plant some flower seeds.  Probably something blue, it was his favorite color.  Or maybe I'll go with girly colors, because that would really get him.

Dave's Amazon Profile Page

68 comments:

  1. Whisk, I'm so sorry! He sounds like he was quite the character. Prayers for his family and you.

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  2. That stinks, I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a great relationship with Dave.

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  3. Alex: Thank you, Alex. I miss him a ton. He was great fun and just a really good egg.

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  4. Matt: Thanks, Matt. We did. And Tim and him got along just as well. There wasn't anything he wouldn't help with and he was just about as supportive as anyone could be.

    Just a good guy.

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  5. Sorry to hear that, Whisk.

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  6. Losing someone close is difficult. His friendship was obviously a gift to you. Thank you for sharing some stories about David.

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  7. bliss: Me too. I am sad :-(

    Ken: He was the original Boogerbutt. Yep, first to join my blog. First to annoy me about writing a blog. Said I would love it once I got started. Bugger was right.

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  8. only good thoughts out to you and all of his friends and family...

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  9. Sorry Whisk, hope all else is well.

    ERIC!

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  10. sorry for the huge loss....

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  11. Sounds like he was a great guy. Sorry for your loss! Hugs!

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  12. Beautiful piece, Ivy. As you say "it sucks". So sorry for your loss.

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  13. Sounds like an awesome guy, sorry for your loss

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  14. My condolences, Whisk. Sounds like you had a lot of laughs and good times together. He'll always be in your heart, I'm sure.

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  15. He sounds like he was a grand fella, Whisk. I'm sorry for your loss.

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  16. "He was generous with his time and knowledge and loved peanut M&M's."

    What a simple, elegant way describe him. Someone that one line brings it home for me.

    Sorry for your loss.

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  17. Sorry for your loss Whisk, he sounded like a top guy.

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  18. I'm sorry for your loss Whisk. You've written a lovely tribute piece to a good man here.

    Thoughts are with you on this sad day.

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  19. Jeremy: Thanks :-(

    ERIC!: He'll be missed :-(

    Shalet: Thank you.

    Sherry: Thanks for the hugs.

    Tim: Thank you. I wasn't sure if I was going to write about this but I am glad that I did.

    Pat: He really was. Thanks.

    Debra: We did. He was a character, for sure.

    William: Thank you, William. Hope you are feeling all the way better, by now.

    Trey: Thank you. Nice that it hits home with other people, as well.

    Ray: He would have gotten on with you and Lurker. Lots of fun.

    Anne: Thank you for your kind words, and wishes.

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  20. Very sad. But good that you carry such great memories of him. In this way do we achieve immortality. :)

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  21. Gosh, that is so sad. So sorry to hear about the loss of someone so special to you. What wonderful memories you have of such a great guy!!

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  22. Hope you're okay Whisk, always sad to lose a close friend.

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  23. it sounds like he was a very nice man!

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  24. Ivy I am so very sorry! I never had a friend die either and can't imagine losing one. I think that's a sweet idea planting flowers in memory of him. ((hugs))

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  25. Sorry for your loss but please remember all of him that made you laugh, it's the way you should remember your loved ones. Can be hard now to think of the good stuff first rather than the loss but keep at it and the loss feels less and they then never leave you.

    Ian

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  26. Tom: Thank you for the great words. He would have liked reading your comment.

    Keepin: Memories are good to have. They make me laugh. And cry and then laugh again.

    Brendan: Really does suck.

    DEZMOND: He was a good egg.

    mshatch: It just sucks. Yes, the flower thing I do each time someone I love dies. Just a nice thing, months later when they bloom. Thanks for the hugs.

    Ian: Your comment was super duper thoughtful and made me cry. Thanks for writing it.

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  27. So many good memories - hold on to them tight and take good care of your special flowers.

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  28. Sorry for your loss. At least you have a lot of great memories.

    Take a picture of the flowers once they bloom!

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  29. oh i am so sorry. i am still reeling from my most recent losses. it's hard to wrap your head around them being gone. i hope you heal soon.

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  30. I'm so sorry, sweetie. {{hugs}}

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  31. Angela: Thanks for the nice comment. Good work you did on your post today.

    Stacy: I will do that. Thank you.

    Jaz: It's so weird when I just talked to him and then he's just gone. That's it. No more joking around. No more Davey.

    Just sucks.

    Suzan: Thanks for the hugs. They are always helpful and welcomed.

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  32. Sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you have all those memories.

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  33. He sounds like a great friend Ivy, so sorry for your loss.

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  34. Kathy Ptacek3/14/2013

    dave was a great guy, ivy, and i know what a loss he was to you and to many others. i've known him since the '80s he published one of my stories in the horror show ... it was about a woman and her elderly mother, and that story meant a lot to him, because his mother was ill then. we talked a lot of those things.

    it is a very sad day for us, his friends, and for the horror world.

    kathy

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  35. Susan: Thank you. The memories are good to have. They bring tears and laughter.

    Fran: He was, thanks. And I love your hairstyle shot. So pretty.

    Kathy: I know what a great loss he is to you and how great he was to you and Charlie. Dave once told me that he had more of Charlie's books than any other author.

    That's pretty cool. Glad we both had a chance to know him and work with him.

    Dave was one of a kind. No doubt.

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  36. Condolences Whisk, This is the thing I know I will hate the most as I keep getting older. Been lucky so far. Sounds like you two were lucky to have known each other.

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  37. Dear Whisk Im really sorry for your loss, I know is really hard lost a dearest friend, huggs!

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  38. Whisk,
    Dave was my friend, too, and I miss him. I've been reading his emails over and over, thinking he's still with us. When you don't have many close friends, it's difficult to lose one. I wish I'd been able to say goodbye and tell him how much his friendship meant to me.

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  39. Chuck: Thank you for your nice comment, Chuck. Glad you've been lucky so far. It really does suck.

    Gloria: My dear your banana pudding sounds amazing. Thank you for stopping by. And for the hugs.

    Wayne: So great to hear from a friend of Dave's. I looked on your blog but it doesn't look active. If you come back, my email is on the top right of my sidebar.

    I've been looking through my emails too. It's very unsettling, because I just don't want to believe he's dead.

    And in regards to your comment about telling him. I believe he knew. He was a smart cookie.

    Thank you for stopping by. Hope to see you again.

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  40. I'm sorry for your loss

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  41. Adam: Thanks, Adam. All of his friends will miss him. He helped a lot of us writers, get our starts. And he was a good good guy.

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  42. He sounds like a great person!
    Sorry for your loss.

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  43. So sorry, Whisk. Sounds like he's leaving a good memory, which is a very good thing.

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  44. I'm so sorry. I know how awful it is to lose such a good friend. Friends like that don't come around every day, but it sure sounds like you blessed each other's lives while he was here.

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  45. Sorry for your loss. Best wishes from me and my lady friend. Take care.

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  46. My deepest sympathies, Whisk!

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  47. I'm so sorry for you loss. It's great that you had such a wonderful friendship, and that you remember so many super things about him.

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  48. My condolences, Whisk.

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  49. Thoughts and prayers to you and to David's family/friends.

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  50. My condolences also. I don't know what to say, been through this when I was a teenager but not in the years since but I still remember the good times with my friend. My prayers and good wishes.

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  51. That is so sad! I'm sorry for your loss, but I think you were richer for having him in your life.

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  52. Brutorz: Thank you.

    Hanny: That is a good thing.

    Susan: Life is just too darn short, eh?

    Pierce: Thank you.

    Monty: Much thanks.

    Bard: It was fun writing that.

    James: Long time no talk. Thanks for stopping by today. Always nice to hear from you.

    Boric: Much appreciated.

    Jason: I'm sorry that you went through this as a teenager. My goodness. That sucks, probably more.

    Al: I agree, thanks.

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  53. Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Sounds like a great guy.

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  54. I so sorry for your loss. Your so right. It sucks. Take care.

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  55. Aw shucks. This is really sad! I'm so sorry for your loss. It always seems like the good people get taken away too soon. Hope that you're well and that whatever you plant grows wonderfully.

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  56. I'm really sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Thinking about you.

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  57. Anthony: Thank you.

    Southpaw: I was saying today, that Hallmark should make a, This Sucks section for cards.

    Azra: I tossed in some Black-eyed-susans. Thanks.

    Jen: Much appreciated.

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  58. I'm sorry for your loss. I had the opportunity to work with him on Hellnotes and always really enjoyed our interactions. He's going to be missed.

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  59. Andrew: Glad you got to work with him. He was a fantastic editor. Really knew his stuff.

    Thanks for stopping by. Great to hear from bloggers that knew him.

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  60. I'm so sorry. He sounded like a great guy. Hugs.

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  61. Melanie: Thanks. Me too. Sucks.

    Sandra: Thanks for the hugs, much appreciated.

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  62. I'm so sorry. Prayers for you and his family. *hugs*

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  63. So sorry for your loss. This is a very touching tribute.

    PS I saw and liked your avatar at someone else's blog, and I'm joining your following.

    Blessings.

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  64. It sucks...that's true. Losing loved ones...never easy.

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  65. I'm sorry to hear it too. He does sound like a good guy, someone who made the world a better place to be. If he helped make you the person you are, we owe him a debt too. Planting is a brilliant way to remember, for seeing them grow and change the landscape, and maybe year after year.

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  66. Dana: Thanks.

    Rawknrobyn: Thanks. I went over and joined your blog as well.

    Welcome to my little corner of the world. We always have cookies.

    Kim: Yeah, it does suck.

    Porky: He helped shape my writing back in the early days and he opened a few big heavy doors for me. I was lucky, I had two mentors that did that.

    Planting is what I do each time someone in my life dies. Nice little way to celebrate their lives.

    Thanks for the drop in.

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